Is it my fault that I am depressed?

Since posting the pictures of a depressed individual’s MRI scan, we have had overwhelming feedback surrounding the relief this has brought to clients who live with depression.

For this month’s blog, we thought it would be helpful to tackle the myth that depression is your ‘fault’. We often feel that if we were ‘stronger’, we wouldn’t have depression, that if ‘we could just get over it and wise up’ that the depression would merely dissipate. As a mental health professional, I can assure you that this is not the case.

Where does depression come from?

Depression has a direct impact on its functioning. Depression can be a result of a chemical imbalance, trauma, or negative childhood experience. NCEs or negative childhood experiences can stem from a critical parent to bullying. The reason for this being is that from the ages of 0-18, your brain is forming, and these NCEs can have an impact on how the mind is formed, and through no fault of your own, your thought patterns, thinking styles and chemical levels are formed without your control or input. There is even evidence that supports changes in your brain’s synapses if you are left crying a little too long as a baby, that is how sensitive that brain can be.

How does it affect the brain?

Frontal Lobe

This part of the brain is involved in thinking, planning, organizing, problem-solving etc. This is why when you’re depressed you find it difficult to think clearly, and organizing your day seems extremely challenging.

Motor cortex

The motor cortex is in control of movement, this is why when depressed, you feel heavy and unable to move, and for some even get out of bed·

Sensory cortex

As the name suggests, this impacts your sensations, which is why extreme depression comes with a feeling of being ‘numb’ or void of emotion or sensation.

Parietal lobe

The parietal lobe controls your perception and making sense of the world, including spelling. This is why reading can often be challenging whilst depressed.

Temporal lobe

The temporal lobe’s job is to memorize and understand language. This can prove difficult when an individual’s depression impacts memory, leaving you feeling ‘fuzzy’. Difficulty in memory can impact driving, conversations, job functionality and day-to-day living.

What can help? 

According to the NHS, the recommended treatment for Depression is CBT, or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.  CBT teaches you skills in order to challenge maladaptive thinking patterns, which in turn change the brain’s chemistry, allowing for change in different areas of the brain. 

In conclusion, it can be exceptionally easy to blame yourself for having depression, because it is hidden. If you were off work with a broken leg, you would have no guilt or shame, but with depression, you think we’re just making it up. In conclusion, please review below the comparison between a standard MRI and an MRI of a depressed individual, I think the difference speaks for itself. Moving forward into your week, please remember that just because something isn’t 'physical', doesn’t make it any less real.


Jessica Leigh

Consultant Psychotherapist / Director

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